Happy Valentines Day !!

From a Friends Wall on FB:

फेसबुक सा फेस है तेरा, गूगल सी हैं आँखें
एंटर करके सर्च करूँ तो बस मुझको ही ताकें

रेडिफ जैसे लाल गाल तेरे हॉटमेल से होंठ
बलखा के चलती है जब तू लगे जिगर पे चोट

सुराही दार गर्दन तेरी लगतीज्यों जी- मेल
अपने दिल के इंटरनेट पर पढ़मेरा ई-मेल

मैंने अपने प्यार का फारम कर दिया है अपलोड
लव का माउस क्लिक कर जानम कर इसे डाउनलोड

हुआ मैं तेरे प्यार में जोगी, तू बन जा मेरी जोगिन
अपने दिल की वेबसाईट पर कर ले मुझको लोगिन

तेरे दिल की हार्डडिस्क मेंऔर कोई न आये
करे कोई कोशिश भी तो पासवर्ड इनवैलिड बतलाये

गली मोहल्ले के वायरस जो तुझ पर डोरे डालें
एन्टी वायरस सा मैं बनकर नाकाम कर दूँ सब चालें

अपने मन की मेमोरी में सेव तुझे रखूँगा 

तेरी यादों की पैन ड्राइव को दिल के पास रखूँगा

तेरे रूप के मॉनिटर को बुझने कभी न दूँगा
बनके तेरा यू पी एस मैं निर्बाधित पावर दूँगा

भेज रहा हूँ तुम्हें निमंत्रण फेसबुक पर आने का
तोतों को मिलता है जहाँ मौका चोंच लड़ाने का

फेसबुक की ऑनलाईन पर बत्ती हरी जलाएंगे
फेसबुक जो हुआ फेल तो याहू पर पींग बढ़ायेंगे

एक-दूजे के दिल का डाटा आपसमें शेयर करायेंगे
फिर हम दोनों दूर के पंछी एक डाल के हो जायेंगे

की-बोर्ड और उँगलियों जैसा होगा हमारा प्यार
बिन तेरे मैं बिना मेरे तू होगी बस बेकार

फिर हम आजाद पंछी शादी के सी पी यू में बन्ध जायेंगे
इस दुनिया से दूर डिजिटल कीधरती पे घर बनाएँगे

फिर हम दोनों प्यासे-प्रेमी नजदीक से नजदीकतर आते जायेंगे
जुड़े हुए थे अब तक सॉफ्टवेयर से अब हार्डवेयर से जुड़ जायेंगे

तेरे तन के मदरबोर्ड पर जब हम दोनों के बिट टकराएँगे
बिट से बाइट्स, फिर मेगा बाइट्स फिर गीगा बाइट्स बन जायेंगे

ऐसी आधुनिक तकनीकयुक्त बच्चे जब इस धरती पर आयेंगे
सच कहता हूँ आते ही इस दुनिया में धूम मचाएंगे

डाक्टर और नर्स सभी दांतों तले उंगली दबाएंगे
होगे हमारे 3g बच्चे और याहू-याहू चिल्लायेंगे

People with Plastic and changing Faces ..... !!!

 

Most of the people who meet me for the first time may not like my upfront nature. At the same time I am a very closed person when it comes to talking about personal stuff.
In today's corporate world it is more about how much personal stuff you share with your peers or seniors. In a way the bosses expect you to be there second wife who will share everything that happens in your life and they don't even think before disclosing them in the team meetings or leadership meets etc. One of my very good friends once told me that people always warned her about me. They said to her that I am very political and double faced, that I am very dishonest etc.


Not to forget they are the same people I helped once, and they don't like me because of whatever they tried to put me down I came back up double faster.Sometimes I feel that I don't know human behavior as it always surprises me and make me feel that I am just a beginner.

It is kind of hard for me to grasp the notion of being extra sweet and accepting what happens around me with ease. In this materialistic butt kissing world, people surprise me with their actions. It has nothing to do with respect or manners as opposed to doing the right thing. I don’t like someone, I am not going to waste my energy or wave away my principles to wear a fake smile on my face just to appear sweet and be good in their eyes. In today’s world people wear more plastic on their faces than the Tupperware Company has globally. 

I hate two faced people, It's hard to decide which face to slap first. We go through life and meet a lot of people. Some make you happy, some make you smile, some can be counted and then there are some whom you would rather not have ever met. There are lots of reasons that would make you want to avoid meeting certain people like they are mean or evil. Mainly though I am talking about personality types which are difficult to deal with and just better to be avoided all together. Sometimes it takes some time before we realize a person we know is on the bad list. Some of us take longer than others to connect the dots.

Like the two faces of a coin we come across the double faced people in our lives. They are nice to you and then turn around and say the worse things ever about. We all are polite to most people and might be inclined to say mean things when we are with people whom we trust but such people usually do this all the time and have another agenda.

Over the time I learned that the best way to deal with them is to stay away from them. The problem is that sometimes you might not have that option. Once you have been back stabbed or betrayed, you always have the option of confrontation, people who feel the need to act that way are usually cowards and can be scared off by just telling them that you know what they’re doing, of course they will deny but it will stop them for some time.

I have now after suffering with being so close to some of them found that the best way is to not tell them anything, not to get close and to keep all conversations to a minimum of small talk. Never ever go down to their level and do what they usually have a habit to do. Avoid private time with them if you can too, be cordial and polite but don’t get sucked into the little soap operas that seem to always unfold around them. Stay away from situations where they gossip and make it clear that you are nice enough to deal with everyone. If you can’t stay away ignore them and never agree with them or offer your opinion on someone else or they will turn around, twist your words and use them against you somehow, they are double crosser by definition.

After coming across some of them, the ones that were once so close and dear to me that i still sometimes feel the same love and respect for them but I guess that is me not them,one faced the same me who never changed or will change being myself or the true self. It really annoys me and I never really understand how they are like that. They were talking to me and being openly friendly the whole time to my face. I am a very honest and sincere and have been true to everyone in my life. I may say I am not perfect but I'm not rude, cruel and diplomat like them and if I have an issue with someone I will prefer to tell them. We have to accept that we are all hypocrites to some degree. It is only natural for everyone to put their own interests first. We must trust others in order to survive but that trust must be tempered with good judgment. Often our expectations of others are not realistic and we end up hurt. So it is better if we accept the least and I would appreciate if even others try to be honest with me .Do not allow the lies and filth that spew from the mouths of the uneducated and cruel garner your spirit, allow no pain from those that are of mean and devious mind. Feel only pity and contempt for them .In this way they will be diminished and vanquished.

Is honesty a Sin ????

In english dictionary the word "Honesty" means:

1. the quality or fact of being honest;  uprightness and fairness.

2.truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness.

3.freedom from deceit or fraud.

I am sure like me, many of us might have heard this saying or might have said it ourselves to others "Be honest with me or I am honest with you" etc.
However, did we ever ask this question that how much honesty one can handle?
How much trust one invests to know that whatever is said/told is true?
How many people in this world are  truely honest to SELF and to other's?
Why people are afraid of being honest ?


The answer to these questions are sometimes difficult to find or easier than thought.

Have you ever noticed that when your with a complete stranger that you have met may be on your way on a flight or on a train or may be on net, you tend to share more or become more honest with that person without any fear of repercussions etc because in your mind may be you know that the person will least impact on your life etc and you risk it.At the same time you share your weaknesses also without any fear of acceptance or not.

Another example of the same is when your with your psychologist discussing something very personal with a confidence that he/she will/might help you find your way/answers and you become very honest about your lives etc.

The problem is, it requires a great deal of trust to willfully expose your weakness to others .
Now where does weakness came into the picture.Well, everyone has weaknesses and to accept those honestly is not only a brave thing but also shows the character.
To pretend that I am without weakness builds a wall around me. Yes, it may protect me from being hurt, but it also keeps out any potential friends. You can't pick and choose, really, what the outcome will be when you build that wall. The funny thing about it is that no one will really believe you anyway, if you pretend to be without weakness. News flash: we ALL have weakness!

Part of honesty is allowing yourself to be vulnerable. It means giving an answer because that's how you feel, instead of answering how you think the person asking the question might want you to answer. Honesty means that you'll be wrong sometimes. Honesty means that you are willing to accept the consequences of your actions. Honesty means failing. Perhaps the most difficult: honesty means coming to terms with yourself as you are, not as you wish you were, or as you wish others would see you. You can't make any improvements in your life if you don't know where your starting point is.

Trust is on the people when you fall, will be there to catch you..

Conclusion is that Trust/confidence,Vulnerable and Fear are the important factors that drives someone's extent of being honest.

However, this just doesn't stop here. You need a kind of understanding also which implies that being able to say things doesn't mean the job is done, its important to know/understand how it is being comprehended.
Many times we say something and it is understood very differently.

But in real being honest requires a lot more courage than one could think, it requires courage of the character, your inner self (how strong you are) and above all how much you believe in your self. But to the negative side of this, you don't have many people by your side and can easily be used or manipulated as you all know we live in a strange world.

But in your lifetime make sure you have someone with whom you are truely honest with atleast 1 in your lifetime.


I'm well aware of this. And I want to grow. I want to allow others into my life. But after so many years of hiding my weaknesses, I don't know how one goes about letting others (i.e., aside from my mom, who thankfully know pretty much all of my weaknesses) see who I really am.